Okay, so, “dstiny wife,” right? Sounds kinda cheesy, but it got me thinking… how do you actually find a partner who’s, like, your destiny? So I did a little experiment on myself. Here’s how it went down:
Phase 1: Figuring Out What I Actually Want
First, I brainstormed. Like, a full-on, pen-to-paper, messy list of everything I thought I wanted in a partner. Things like “funny,” “kind,” “likes dogs,” you know, the usual. Then, I looked at that list and asked myself, “Is this really me, or is this what I think I should want?”
Turns out, a lot of it was, well, kinda generic. So I started over. This time, I focused on stuff that genuinely makes me happy. Like, I love deep conversations about weird stuff, I need someone who’s okay with my messy creative process, and I definitely want someone who’s down for spontaneous adventures.
Phase 2: Putting Myself Out There (Ugh)
Okay, this was the hard part. I hate dating apps, but I figured I needed to actually, you know, meet people. So I downloaded a couple, cringed at writing my profile, and started swiping.
- I tried to be super honest in my profile, highlighting the quirky stuff instead of trying to be “cool.”
- I forced myself to message people first, even when I was nervous.
- I went out with a handfull people.
It was… a mixed bag. Some dates were okay, some were total duds. But I noticed something important: the more I stayed true to myself, the more I connected with people who actually got me.
Phase 3: Actually, You Know, Connecting
So, I met this one person who seemed pretty cool. We chatted for a while, and I felt a genuine connection. We talked about everything, from our favorite books to our weirdest childhood memories.
Instead of trying to impress them, I just… was myself. I shared my passions, my fears, my hopes. And they did the same. It felt… easy. Like we’d known each other for ages.
Phase 4: Is This “Destiny”?
I have been dating with her for a couple of months.
I don’t know if this is “destiny,” but it feels pretty damn good. I learned that finding someone who’s right for you isn’t about checking boxes on a list. It’s about being brave enough to be yourself, and then finding someone who loves you for it.
So, my “dstiny wife” experiment? Still in progress. But I’m optimistic. And I’m definitely having more fun than I thought I would.
